If both the parents of a child are working and leaving him/her under the care of their other family members or a servant, is this not taking their kids interest away of them? They must be doing so for a ...
You are right here. Parents really consider advices of their social circle being so significant but cant let their children decide their future. Its really true. Its not only applicable in present scenario but these practices were going on from the past as well. Now whoever are your parents they alRead more
You are right here. Parents really consider advices of their social circle being so significant but cant let their children decide their future. Its really true. Its not only applicable in present scenario but these practices were going on from the past as well. Now whoever are your parents they also faced the same issues which you are facing currently. Your parents’ parents did this same thing to them and so on. Its not anybody’s fault. Its our Indian culture. Its like a tradition. Everyone faced this from past to present times. I don’t favor this or support this nor I am against to all these things. Ultimately its our life and its a part and parcel of it.
If you compare our educational systems with foreign education system, you will get to know the answer for the same. Let me elaborate this more. In foreign countries , you will find all children who grow up and reach at puberty, as per their value system , they left house and leave separately. Mostly their parents are divorced or leaving separately. So that teenagers have full control on their lives to what to do , how to do and how to move ahead in any situation whether its favorable or unfavorable for them. So naturally you will find here they take decisions of their own education, career goals, marriages without anyone’s interference. That doesn’t mean their parents don’t care about them but its their culture. They start living on their own earnings for livelihood at very young age. In our case all things are in reverse mode.
Its reality and fact. Every culture has its merits and demerits. But in reality as per my opinion and experience , I would suggest you don’t be anyone’s puppet. That doesn’t mean I am saying to go against your parents and society but listen to them , take their opinions but do only those things which are beneficial for you for the long term. Taking advice is not crime. Firstly understand your own skills , comfort levels, your dreams and career goals. Concentrate on your own choice. Find out what suits you and what not. Take proper decisions in all matters related to careers. Don’t copy what others doing or your friends, siblings following. That will misguide you. Decide your goal first and search ways, solutions accordingly. Parents will never agree unless and until you will show them results. If they see you growing in your chosen field then they will never oppose your any decisions and actions henceforth. Try to increase your convincing skill in a such way that they will agree with you in your career choices. See ultimately they want you to become stable in life. They are not your enemies. They are your best friends in the world.
Ultimate truth of the life is nobody is remained with you till your last breath, not your parents, siblings and relatives, even friends. Life is full of exams, happiness, success , failures, birth death, mixture of all these things. So decide right career path for yourself and move ahead positively. Then only you will able to sustain in this world.
There is a popular line in hindi poem” Koshish karne walo ki haar nahi hoti” so “Lage raho”
Best of Luck for your future.
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Modern parenting doesn't mean that parents abandoned there responsibly by leaving there child to someone else care and those who do so either they don't care there child or they afraid to take responsibility..in Today's era everyone is running behind of there drems. And there is nothing wrong with tRead more
Modern parenting doesn’t mean that parents abandoned there responsibly by leaving there child to someone else care and those who do so either they don’t care there child or they afraid to take responsibility..in Today’s era everyone is running behind of there drems. And there is nothing wrong with that, fullfiling one’s dremes is everyone right. But neglecting you child for the sake of your dreams is wrong”.they say that they do everything for there child’s future so that they don’t face problem in future but what about Today? When children need there parents the most they are not there to play with them , talk to them or take care of them when they are sick .at a young age children are forced to contfort lonlines and become responsible them selves which causes there childhood to be lost somewhere in the proces..
But in today’s modern parenting which has become a common Trend, if some things keep in mind perhaps both children and parents can remain happy”.
1) in a week one day with mom and one day with dad they can sare half time so child can spend two days with each parent.
2) and on the weekends go with your child to the places where he want to go with you and spend whole time with your child
3)and in between work,take out a little time to call your child even if it’s just a video call
Your small effort can strengthen the bond between you and your child so that your child will never feel alone and abandoned.your dreams and money are important but they are not more important than your child’s happiness..
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