Will society decide my career, grades, future goals and I will be their puppet ? Parents these days consider advices of their social circle being so significant, but can't let their children decide their future.
Anjali DakshaBegginer
You are right here. Parents really consider advices of their social circle being so significant but cant let their children decide their future. Its really true. Its not only applicable in present scenario but these practices were going on from the past as well. Now whoever are your parents they also faced the same issues which you are facing currently. Your parents’ parents did this same thing to them and so on. Its not anybody’s fault. Its our Indian culture. Its like a tradition. Everyone faced this from past to present times. I don’t favor this or support this nor I am against to all these things. Ultimately its our life and its a part and parcel of it.
If you compare our educational systems with foreign education system, you will get to know the answer for the same. Let me elaborate this more. In foreign countries , you will find all children who grow up and reach at puberty, as per their value system , they left house and leave separately. Mostly their parents are divorced or leaving separately. So that teenagers have full control on their lives to what to do , how to do and how to move ahead in any situation whether its favorable or unfavorable for them. So naturally you will find here they take decisions of their own education, career goals, marriages without anyone’s interference. That doesn’t mean their parents don’t care about them but its their culture. They start living on their own earnings for livelihood at very young age. In our case all things are in reverse mode.
Its reality and fact. Every culture has its merits and demerits. But in reality as per my opinion and experience , I would suggest you don’t be anyone’s puppet. That doesn’t mean I am saying to go against your parents and society but listen to them , take their opinions but do only those things which are beneficial for you for the long term. Taking advice is not crime. Firstly understand your own skills , comfort levels, your dreams and career goals. Concentrate on your own choice. Find out what suits you and what not. Take proper decisions in all matters related to careers. Don’t copy what others doing or your friends, siblings following. That will misguide you. Decide your goal first and search ways, solutions accordingly. Parents will never agree unless and until you will show them results. If they see you growing in your chosen field then they will never oppose your any decisions and actions henceforth. Try to increase your convincing skill in a such way that they will agree with you in your career choices. See ultimately they want you to become stable in life. They are not your enemies. They are your best friends in the world.
Ultimate truth of the life is nobody is remained with you till your last breath, not your parents, siblings and relatives, even friends. Life is full of exams, happiness, success , failures, birth death, mixture of all these things. So decide right career path for yourself and move ahead positively. Then only you will able to sustain in this world.
There is a popular line in hindi poem” Koshish karne walo ki haar nahi hoti” so “Lage raho”
Best of Luck for your future.
Hey there! Are you ready to break free society’s rules and let kids choose their own path? Today, parents are torn between old-fashioned advice and letting children decide for themselves. Parents often rely on friends or family to make choices about their kids’ futures. This influence shapes what parents think is successful in society. Kids then feel pressured to pick careers or grades that fit in with these norms instead of their passions.
Sometimes, parents impose their own dreams on their children without realizing it. Kids end up feeling stuck meeting others’ expectations instead of exploring what they truly love. This mix-up can lead to kids not really knowing who they are because they’re being pushed by society. But, empowering children to pick their own way is key! By letting kids try different hobbies and interests, they can find what they really enjoy and excel at. Creating a safe space where kids can talk about their dreams without judgment is crucial for independence.
Allowing kids to make choices and learn from mistakes helps them grow confident. It’s important to have honest talks and trust between parents and kids. When families openly discuss career options, school goals, and dreams, children feel free to share what they want. Making kids feel heard and respected encourages them to take charge of their decisions and work towards goals. In a world filled with expectations, parents have a big job in helping children find their own path.
Balancing guidance with freedom allows kids to discover who they are on their own terms. Each child has unique dreams that deserve support. By ditching outside pressure, parents can help kids shine bright. Letting kids choose how they want to live sets them up for success. It’s time to let go of society’s grip and watch our children flourish! Remember: supporting and cheering on our little ones as they chase their dreams is key.
Let’s celebrate how special each child is and encourage them to follow what makes them happy!
No, society and parents don’t have to decide your career, grades, and future goals. While it’s true that parents often listen to their social circles and give advice based on what they think is best for you, it’s important to remember that you have a voice in your own future. Talk to your parents about your dreams and goals. Honest communication can help them understand your perspective.
You have the right to make your own decisions. Yes, external advice can be valuable, but the final choice is yours. Building confidence in your own abilities and desires is key to shaping your future. Society may have its expectations, but many people find success by following their passions, even when it means going against the norm.
Balancing advice from others with your own aspirations can lead to the best outcomes. Listen to different perspectives, but always stay true to what you want. Your goals may change over time, and that’s perfectly okay. Stay open to new opportunities and focus on what makes you happy and fulfilled.
Actually, your future is in your hands. By choosing to be your true guide and to live forever, you can create a path that reflects your dreams and great aspirations.
Choosing what to do with your life can be daunting, especially these days with the added societal pressure. But, it is important to remember that you are the only one who has to live with the consequences of these choices. While making these big decisions; you must keep your own desires, dreams and priorities at the forefront of your mind. But sometimes it may also be wise to consider the concerns of your parents, as they may be worried for your future and probably want what is best for you. If their concerns are valid, then you should try to find a middle ground. If not, you should try to communicate with them clearly and persuade them to understand your point of view.
In today’s world when everything tends to be pre-decided and everyone thinks they know what is best for us, it is necessary to figure out what your priorities and aspirations are, and the goals that you want to achieve in your life. You mut remind yourself that nobody knows you better than yourself. Although it is alright to allow people to sit in the passenger seat, you should always be in the driver seat of your life, choosing which path to take next.
It’s natural to feel conflicted about the influence society and parents can have on your career and future goals. While it’s true that parents often consider advice from their social circle, this doesn’t necessarily mean they’re wrong or trying to make you a puppet. They have more experience and understanding of how society works, which can provide valuable insights.
However, it’s equally important to recognize that your passions and interests should play a significant role in shaping your future. Open and honest communication with your parents is key. Discuss your goals and aspirations with them, expressing why they matter to you. This way, you can find a balance between their guidance and your own desires.
Involving your parents in these conversations, rather than society at large, can lead to a more constructive dialogue and better mutual understanding. Ultimately, your path should reflect a combination of your dreams and the wisdom your parents can offer, ensuring a well-rounded decision-making process.