Self-love teaches us to have boundaries and standards so that we do not let others disrespect or mistreat us. Therefore, having standards is having conditions that must be fulfilled in order to respect us. In this case, is unconditional love ...
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While it is not explicitly translated in the pages of Jane Austen's 1813 novel "Pride and Prejudice" that Mr. Fitzwilliam Darcy Esquire suffered from social anxiety, there are certainly many moments throughout the beloved tale that suggest he may have experienced anxiety, especially when it comes toRead more
While it is not explicitly translated in the pages of Jane Austen’s 1813 novel “Pride and Prejudice” that Mr. Fitzwilliam Darcy Esquire suffered from social anxiety, there are certainly many moments throughout the beloved tale that suggest he may have experienced anxiety, especially when it comes to major social situations.
From the very first moment when Mr. Darcy met Elizabeth Bennet, his aloof and introverted demeanor makes the second eldest of five Bennet sisters form a negative impression. Hence, his apparent discomfort in large gatherings, especially while conversing with strangers, could be interpreted as signs of social anxiety.
In the novel, Mr. Darcy even quoted his tendency to avoid small talk and struggle with expressing his true emotions by saying, “I certainly do not have the talent which some people possess of conversing easily with those I have never seen before,” which can also point to the wealthy English aristocrat as having social anxiety.
Initially, the readers might have considered Mr. Darcy as a proud man who doesn’t wear his heart on his sleeve. But as the story progresses, with his kind gestures, he turns out to be a fine gentleman who likes to tell his honest thoughts without twisting his words, despite his reserved behavior, which also got judged by Elizabeth.
Ultimately, it is up for readers to decide whether Mr. Darcy’s perceived coldness stems from social anxiety, as his personality has played a crucial part in contributing towards his complex characterization, which has inspired many derivatives in modern literature, including films and TV adaptations of the classic novel.
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Love is not unconditional, nor should it be. Love should never be a compromise. Love should be shared. Love shouldn’t be a series of mistakes, fights, arguments, or negotiating. Love should be easy. But it seldom if ever is. Fair or not, love needs to be a partnership. Love needs to be more than twoRead more
Love is not unconditional, nor should it be. Love should never be a compromise. Love should be shared. Love shouldn’t be a series of mistakes, fights, arguments, or negotiating. Love should be easy. But it seldom if ever is. Fair or not, love needs to be a partnership. Love needs to be more than two people caring for one another and more than people trying to make each other happy. I find it frequently true that love is hard. Duh, right? It’s difficult. It’s impossible. And it needs to be. Because if love were easy, it wouldn’t be worth having. For me, in order for a relationship to work, love has to be and should be conditional.
I find this pretty evident. I mean, who wants to put themselves out there and love unconditionally? To be honest with you, I’ve loved and I’ve lost more in my life than I would ever like to feel again. For me, it’s not about loss, it’s about the regrets of mistakes I made, not what someone else has done. I own who I am. I own my actions, I own my feelings, and I own my love. I don’t give it freely and expect very little in return when I do. And because of that I expect to have it returned. But unfortunately that’s not always the case.
Please allow me to contradict myself for a moment. Love should be and will always be unconditional. That is to say that you should be able and willing to love someone without expecting anything in return. Selflessly. That’s what makes love incredibly unique as well as difficult to find. The selflessness of being able to open yourself up for the ultimate crush. The ultimate pain. Not being loved. When I say that love is meant to be conditional it is that I don’t want to ever feel the sting of loving unconditionally and not being loved in return.
Things happen in life. Some are good, some bad. But one thing you shouldn’t be afraid to do is place a condition on your love. And why shouldn’t you? If your need to provide love is conditional upon being loved in return, treated fairly, respected, and adored, why shouldn’t you place conditions on your love? Love is the ultimate sacrifice. You provide someone the ammunition to foster a pain inside of you that few experiences can heal. So In my personal opinion it shouldn’t be unconditional.
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